5 years of marriage.
I'd be lying if I said it was always easy and always happy. We often hear the words "Marriage is hard", but you don't really know the gavity and depth of that statement until you're up to your neck in it, and look around yourself and think- "Fuck me. This is HARD."
My husband and I are both prickly-around-the-edges type people who can be hard to love sometimes. We also both came into the marriage with our fair share of baggage. We stacked our baggage up around our selves and proclaimed, "Love me despite this."
The past 16 months of marriage (a long chapter of our lives entitled 'Early Parenthood') has been especially tough to navigate. The physical changes, hormone changes, sleep deprivation, and stress has added a layer of difficulty onto an already difficult endeavour.
After only 5 years I am hardly an expert in marriage, but at this point I'd say the key to a (mostly) happy marriage is FORGIVENESS.
You must forgive your partner every single day for the unmet expectations & their endless short comings.. and you must learn to forgive yourself as well for yours. Because if you hang onto every sharp word, every unmet commitment, every irritation, every pair of dirty socks left on the living room floor, you will soon drown in the anger and resentment completely taking your entire marriage down with you.
To keep things afloat, you must learn to let go. You must learn to pick your battles. You must learn to forgive 99.99% of your partner's infractions and invest your energies in the positive stuff.
Marriage is hard... but hard as it is, I've never been 'in' something so wholly and unequivocally.
So happy anniversary to my hard working, dedicated, affectionate and loving husband. You are the perfect husband for me, and there is nobody else I would rather fight with, and grow old with. Thanks for loving me, and for forgiving me day after day.
Photo by Angela Ruscheinski